ItвЂ™s a hard lesson to learn, and weвЂ™d all wish it to be some other way вЂ“ something that finds us valued as people for вЂњwhat we have on the inside,вЂќ or something about how worthy of love we are, how many friends we have, and all the spirit of the film, ItвЂ™s a Wonderful Life. If this is true, and if in that same program we discover how one of the ways a man can actually measure his progress in the area вЂ“ and in himself in general вЂ“ is to QUANTIFY success relative to other men, and the most efficient, effective and accurate way to do that is through the dollar amount you make per day, month and year frankly. How you do with womenHow you do in career work In some of our other programs we lay out how it is that a manвЂ™s identity вЂ“ and masculinity itself вЂ“ is rooted in just two things: It is your own understanding of yourself that guides everything you do potentially, or else its absence lets the random forces of nature steer your path вЂ“ which is NEVER in your best interest, and NEVER creates wealth. He was saying that in an open marketplace of ideas, goods and services, the market tells US what we are worth (to the public)вЂ¦ вЂњYouвЂ™re worth what people pay for your goods or services.вЂќ There is an old mentorвЂ™s oft-cited advice about value, and as we are about to see вЂ“ wealth itself вЂ“ is about as candid and honest and dead accurate logic as IвЂ™ve ever heard from a mentor: At least they absolutely will not вЂњget in their own way.вЂќ When the reality is that they are ALREADY wealthy in вЂњpsychological resources.вЂќ ItвЂ™s inevitable that they prosper. They want to be doing what they know they were meant to do, and it is in fact highly likely that they will prosper as a result. Some people donвЂ™t need or want all that much money. In other words, there needs to be REAL VALUE coming back to you for the psychological resources that you put into it. And if you arenвЂ™t in a creative career, you ought to be, even if that means that you steer your organized, analytical career in a new, innovative direction.ДЄnd yet it is so true that in building a life, what men MUST face is that at the end of the day itвЂ™s not good enough just to вЂњdo workвЂќ or вЂњgo to workвЂќ or вЂњto find your mission as a man.вЂќ The mission you find for your life DOES need to pay you back at the very LEAST to the degree of the amount of work you put into it. Chances are that you are in a creative career, or you wouldnвЂ™t be here looking at new ideas in psychology for your personal and financial growth.

Dr paul dobransky boundaries